Living up to the facade of ‘being better than anyone else’ has been harming us long enough. No matter what we are on the outside, who we are on the inside is the most important. The irrational fear of having the inability of being perfect is a complete waste of time. The more you spend your time on the superficial things, the more time you’ve wasted, when you could’ve enjoyed life and all it’s precious gifts. As our Maker enunciated that “You lack nothing, use what I gave you”. Accepting yourselves for who you are doesn’t requires validation it’s all about brushing up with what we’ve got. If outside validation is your only source of nourishment then you will forever remain thirsty and can never be able to gratify the richness of your innerselves you’ve bestowed with.
Every photograph that you look at has been edited a ridiculous amount of times. Many of us lose ourselves by following other people’s lives which they put into the brackets of ‘Perfectionism’ and they had been fooled enough to allow themselves to be so quickly beguiled by their animal magnetism. A lot of it is false. We are living in a delusional world. It is just so frustrating nowadays that we seek happiness from temporal concerns. Those worldly attachments consume our lives and rule our world. On the contrary it is nothing but a fabrication. We all need to stop looking outwards and start looking inwards.
Whilst chasing, following and tracing other people’s lives, alot of questions struck on our minds like; Who am I?
Who I want to be?
Do I embracing every inch of myself?
Am I known to who I really am?
And with all of these questions the few more queries popped out to our minds which are actually the root questions of all the insecurities, we filled our mind with and that needs to be answered by no one but our inner selves.
All we truly need to ask ourselves;
What’s holding us back?
Where are we right now?
What and how do we feel on a regular basis?
What do we feel inside of our body?
Is our mind and heart are at peace with the phase of our lives in which we are functioning?
By taking a closer look at these different parameters, the truth bombs I am ruminating right here, would shed some light upon those things that called out to you.
1- Fear — It’s most likely fear. Fear of failure. Fear of being disliked. Far-fetched criterion of beauty has become a trait that the people feel pressured to made strained attempts to present their best to the world by way of their social media windows. So with the norm, which has been continue since very long, an average person feels a constant sense of failure in the pursuance of perfection.
2- Ego — Being aware of our ego can change our lives drastically for the better. We want to fit in and impress people, to be liked. Ego makes us compare. There is no comparison. We’re all here to be different and to accomplish different things at different times. Be like you. That’s always better and real. We all are amazing in our own individual ways.
The truth of life is, everyone is dealing with something or the same category of a problem and are fighting with it. Every thought that you have, at least 10 other people also have thought of the same thing. Unfortunately, the world we live in influences many of us to hide our true selves, to convince us that we’re alone.
The antidote is that — All you need is yourself. Be your own judge and also a greatest supporter. You don’t need to impress anyone but yourself. Relate to and motivate each other. Learn to support and uplift others too.
As Julia Cameron had shared some solid truth in her book The Artist’s Way,
“……..Rather than being taught to ask ourselves who we are, we are schooled to ask others. We are, in effect, trained to listen to others versions of ourselves. We are brought up in our life as told to us by someone else”.
In this snippet there’s a sheer medicine, guidance and a sage wisdom which is completely hidden, unapproachable and such an important factor defined that we tend to not enough attention too.
Leaving this solid truth of my life right here — I love who I am, I know who I am and I focus on myself alone to try to better myself in everyway, I can. As I don’t trust anyone else to takecare of myself and tell me what I need, as I feel, I am the best judge to myself. I consider it as a gift from my Creator that I am well aware of all the wounded and broken parts of me and have an ability to take a charge of dealing, fixing and healing those old, broken, forgotten parts of myself which made me a new, more integrated me.
We all are living in a nutshell of perfection so bad that so much of our energy consumed and wasted in making it, that could be spent doing other productive things. If our life’s aim shall become less obsession with being obsessed with what we all are ‘supposed’ to look like and dedicate the same energy into loving ourselves and our lives, then we all will surely feel happier and more productive. I hope we can realise this factor and try to fix this. These fixed and unproductive assumptions of what’s perfect and what’s imperfect, should better go.
We all must embrace our individuation, our scars, our flaws wholly – we all have something we see as a flaw but it tends to make us who we are; which is Beautiful.
Its been too long feeling bad ♡