Our society, still terribly immature.
Some of us think that ‘being kind with someone’ is a cheesy trait. Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. There is so much negativity in this world and also there are so many ways to be kind. It is actually shocking how we take it for granted.
A recent Medical science study have brought a special attention to it by publishing in the Journal of Social Psychology that suggests that committing acts of kindness towards our close connections, our acquaintances, toward ourselves — and even observing acts of kindness — have equally positive effects on our happiness. Because it is a phenomena that stress and anxiety weakens our immune systems and happiness, love and kindness boosts our immune systems and decreases stress.
Jennfier Ramlo, Ph.D. an L.A. based clinical psychologist, tells Thrive that – Kindness is contagious, too. “When someone is kind to you, the positive experience that comes from that can encourage you to practice kindness with others,” she says.
Kindness leaves such a long lasting effect and a positive impression on people.
Kindness is free, yet it costs us so much to actually do it. Being nice to everyone does not mean that you have to be a doormat for anyone or showing a smile on your face 24/7. You can be the toughest person ever and still be the kindest person in the world at the same time.
I have been thinking about kindness and why we need it so much these days.
Here I am going to put up some logical ways to make a difference right now by being kind, how to bring positivity in yourself, about how to beautify your innerself and your surroundings by just being kind in it.
• How to be kind to yourself first?
1 – Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Feed your body with wholesome food but also indulge yourself from some treats if you want to. Exercise regularly to release toxicity which your body recieve for every time you are down or stressed. Get enough sleep and drink lots of water. Your body will surely appreciate that.
Our lives are so fast paced and tough because of the competition out there and the desire for to be a better than everyone else that we almost forget to give ourselves a break. Spend time doing what you love, relax, meditate and cleanse your mind of all the negative energy you have attracted all day. You will feel light and unburdened when you commit sometime to yourself.
Moreover, cleanse yourself from self doubt, social acceptance, pleasing someone and above all from the rat race of powerful connotation because no one is going to look after you better than yourself.
2 – Surround yourself with good positive people. People who are real and I must say that unfortunately real are rare these days. People who don’t flatter you with words instead their actions speaks louder than words. Surround yourself with those people who gather yourself when you’re down. The people who always makes you see your worth. The people who encourage and supports you in every way. They are the once in a life time kind of people. Cherish such kind of relationships. They will reciprocate the kindness you give.
3 – Positive affirmations only. I know it is not easy but try to see the good side of everything and everyone. If they did wrong to you, forgive them in your heart for the sake of your own peace but externally take action to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Motivate yourself to get out of negative thinking.
4 – Accept yourself. Skin issues or any issue comes and goes, don’t let it effect how you feel about yourself. Embrace and love yourself completely. We all have something we see as a flaw but it tends to make us who we are which is beautiful. If you don’t love yourself, who is going to love you?
• How to be kind to your family?
Spend time with them and serve each other. Spending time in your room does not create any type of human connection that members of your family may need when feeling alone downstairs or in another room. Talk to them or make them company. Do things at home without being asked. Make them little gifts. Little notes in the fridge wishing everyone a good day would be nice. Seeing their reactions will be the most satisfying thing ever. Be supportive to any family member who might be going through a tough time. Check on them and reassure them that they are not alone. Be open with them. Sharing things might bring support and even some satisfaction. Organise little weekend plans together. Apologise when you are wrong. Having an argument and living in the same house is not easy, so let it go. Family should never be the enemy.
Be respectful that is the key to a peaceful home. Always remember that no relationship is selfless except for family.
• How to be kind to your friends?
Celebrate their successes with them. Encourage them. Nothing better than being a supportive friend. Compliment them. Remind them of how much you appreciate them by expressing gratitude. Be attentive. Listen to what they say. They will appreciate it if you remember things they said. Don’t break the friendship without talking it out first. Help them out. Even with little things like borrowing them your phone to make a call when their phone is dead or they do not have credit.
Be there for them when they are at their lowest. Asking if they are alright does not cost anything. If they do not want to say it, ask once again if they feel better than yesterday. This will reassure them that you will be there for them and that you value the friendship. Do something generous just because once in a while little gestures are the best gestures. Make time for them because it shows that you care for them and the relationship as well. Try to remember their birthdays without facebook notifications and reminders.
Treat your friends as you would wish to be treated.
• How to be kind to acquaintances at study and workplace?
Be polite at all times. Give notes, when your classmate needs and help them out. They will remember that time when you helped them out and help you in return when you need it. If you are good at a subject, volunteer to help someone from your class if they struggle with a subject and they need the help in dealing with it.
Offer your lunch to the ones who does not have anything to eat, even if they have not asked you. Accomplishment, for instance if they got a scholarship or anything that has a big impact in their life, tell them how deserving they are for it. Give words of encouragement if they ever have a deep conversation with you about the things they are dealing with.
• How to be kind to strangers?
Volunteer. Give up your seat if you do not really need it. Pay for someone’s bus fare when they unexpectedly don’t have any money. Donate anything you know it will be beneficial for someone else that might need it. If you are a driver, stop and let people in the middle of the road cross first.
When you make eye contact with someone, smile. Treat every small interaction with a stranger as an opportunity to make them smile.
I hope that you can use this as a guide whenever you feel like negativity is affecting you. I just wanted to note that doing these things can sometimes make people to take advantage of your kindness. You and ONLY you can stop that from happening if you put some limits to it, if you feel like the person doesn’t deserve your kindness. But don’t ever let anyone take the kindness away from you.
Let me know what you think about kindness. I would love to hear from you.
Much love ♡